Backyard bonfire to heal a mending heart! Write a letter to someone who has hurt you or to someone you’ve hurt. Pour your guts into this letter, they will never see it. You can include some fond memories along with the hard lessons they taught you at the expense of your sanity, finances and much more. Then, carefully place the letter into the fire. As you do this, imagine all of the sadness and heartache described in your letter leaving your body and going into the fire on the pulp it rests upon. To truly let go of these attachments and trauma bonds, it’s important to have a ceremonious ritual to cement the process of letting go into your memory. If you’re writing to people in your past to whom you’ve harmed, ask for forgiveness and then get used to the idea of forgiving yourself. You cannot live your life in a holding pattern while someone decides if you’re eligible for forgiveness. They are not superior to you so you need to forgive youself and them for the pain that was exchanged. These experiences taught you valuable lessons you cannot unlearn. The best way to honor this realization is to never repeat that pattern again. This moment can become a commitment ceremony to yourself. Make promises to who you are and who you wish to become in the future. Love yourself wholeheartedly and unconditionally. You are worth it!

*Please practice fire safety with a fire extinguisher handy and access to a water source. If this is your first time building slowly and maintain the flames by adding dry wood when needed.