How You Doin'?

March 09, 2022 by natalini in design, wellness, self-care

What is real? Sometimes life feels surreal which can be hard to differentiate from what is happening in real time to what we are emotionally experiencing. (This is especially true when we are living alongside that dirty bitchass named grief. That’s a post for a different week.) This human experience is as complex as it is simple in that there’s a beginning and an end, yet there are so many twists and turns with many lessons to learn. All for what? What is real when we each have our own perspective or different version of the same story? Perception plus instincts plus logic is a dynamic mixture created from early childhood experiences. Was that just mental and emotional math? Ew. That’s kind of what it seems like. So HOW we choose to live our lives is what makes us real in this surreal and confusing, yet finite existence. What we do to care for ourselves, the work we do and our financial fitness are what we are responsible for managing. It’s way too easy to get wrapped up in what we have to output everyday when it comes to the expectations others have on us. It’s essential to evaluate our life’s balance sheet often.

Here is a checklist reminder for simple actions to be aware of each day:

Self-care

Nutrition - eat at least some whole natural food from the earth
Exercise - can be subtle stretches throughout the day
Meditation - in the form of sitting quietly for 3-5 minutes with one word to repeat mentally
Hygiene - take a longer than normal shower and maybe light a candle and play some classical music if its not raining outside

Work

Balance the ratio of your output to input energy by practicing saying no politely to give yourself more “me” time.
Shift the thought of exchange time for currency to offering energy for infinite abundant energy.
Do some work that you love on the side or volunteer using your natural gifts to have a positive energy exchange for a passion project or cause.

Financial Fitness

Where are you directing your dollars? Each dollar works for you, but your job is to tell them what to do for you and when.
Look directly at your Income, Debts, Assets and Investments. It may hurt at first, however taking an honest look at your financial state will put you in charge of what you do next.
- Check your credit report
- Add the total debts owed and divide that number by 12 which will provide some perspective on how much you’d have to pay per month to pay off all of your debts. Now take the debt total and divide it by 365 and you will see how much money you’d have to earn per day (weekends included) to pay off the debts in one year. This is just an exercise to put the numbers into persepective in order to create a realistic debt freedom date. Choose the best pay off strategy based on your income and fixed expenses each month.
- Be sure to save some money while paying down debts and donating to causes that you’re passionate about. Giving any amount of money you can even when you’re in a tough financial situation is key to trusting yourself, the energetic forcefield we live in it and ensures you will receive what you need in this life when you need it.

Bonus: On a piece of paper write the number 8 or 888, fold it up and place it in your wallet. 8 is the number of infinity and abundance.

Seasonal Self-Care

September 22, 2021 by natalini in wellness, yoga, self-care

Happy Fall! Season changes are a perfect time to refresh your mind, routine and perspective. Make time to add some self-care to this season’s calendar. Your mental and physical health are more important that most of the “important” things that are a priority in the calendar. Self-care doesn’t have to cost anything at all and can take one hour or less to experience. Think about it like this, you naturally blink your eyes, breathe and go to the bathroom automatically so start to see an act of self-care as an automatic response. Start by looking into the mirror and saying “I love you.” For more self-love affirmations, look to the queen of self-care, Louis Hay.

Photo by: Clever Visuals @clever_visuals

Self-Care for Setbacks

March 02, 2021 by natalini in wellness, self-care

3 Survival Tips for Navigating Tough Times, Permission to Celebrate Small Wins and the Importance of Gratitude!

Life’s dynamic duo, changes and challenges, are inevitable and make up the pivotal parts of life’s story to be later told in the golden years. As for getting through the events that tell the eventual story, that’s a whole bunch of trial and error. Here are some things to think about before getting into the navigational tips.

Regardless of the events that occur, taking time to grieve the end of an era, a loved one or a part of who you once were is necessary. The best advice for grieving is to acknowledge and feel the emotions without over-masking them with a substance (alcohol, drugs, pharmaceuticals) or behavior (avoidance, shopping, overworking…). It can be challenging to regulate these coping strategies, but it’s important to try and limit them in order to move forward in as healthy a way as possible. There’s no judgment in the grieving process as just waking up the next morning is a success. Self-love and care is essential when recovering from a great loss and once the tears part for a moment these 3 survival tips will assist in launching you into the next chapter.

Assess - Create an itemized list or timeline of the events that have occurred. It’s okay to be sad and reflective, you’ve been through a lot, especially if you have children or you were betrayed or blindsided by the events that took place.
Dream - This is the time to think about those childhood dreams and big wishes for the future. If you had unlimited finances, what would you do right now? Where would you live? What would you do as a career or what philanthropic foundation would you create? This is your time to play and dream in a literal sense. Movement pushes energy and emotions through the body that transitions a mental state like no other method. Take this opportunity to play a game like a child, exercise or dance like an idiot in the kitchen to 80’s music. Just get moving!
Assemble a Plan - Now that the body is tingling and the brain has gotten a dose of oxygen, it’s time to put together an action plan. Keep this simple and within your current resources. This is where the big dream gets simplified into achievable steps. For example, if you want to travel the world and become a travel writer, you could start with your own town, closest city or with an activity unique to where you live. Explore and write about your experience and take it further with recruiting family or friends to join you. This could be the start to a new career. If taking a pay cut is necessary during this time, try to see this is as a “sling shot” step, where sometimes moving backwards can catapult you farther than where you were when you lost it all.
BE SURE TO…
Celebrate - Take note of your progress and celebrate what may seem like baby steps are actually really bigs deals when moving through a tough transition. Write down all of these milestones as they happen in order to review in moments of discouragement.
Express Gratitude - Make a list of every single thing you are grateful for in this moment. This list better include the smallest to the biggest aspects of your life from your finger nails to your home regardless of any imperfections. Express gratitude for all that has happened, good and bad because without it, you wouldn’t be able to grow stronger for your next steps. We are all an example and an inspiration to one another so be kind to yourself and to others. Everyone is navigating through something.

Here’s a small peak at a chapter (in progress) from my soon to be self-published book, “How to Make the Best F’ing Lemonade,” for a bonus perspective on moving through tough times.

PHOENIX MOMENT

Identify the alignment of events when everything seems to be happening all at once.

This is your chance to re-build and reinvent your life. Everyone has many Phoenix moments at varying and often unexpected times. We need to see these moments as opportunities to review, regroup, refresh and rebuild in a way that far exceeds our original vision. At this point, there is absolutely nothing more to lose.

It is valuable to have a few “down-on-the-ground,” full depletion of every emotion, reason, answer and excuse moments. This is where the good stuff we create is built upon. It is also like a game of “trust me” for yourself. The question is, can you catch yourself before you fall or do you need to break down completely to test your resilience? You are definitely much stronger than you think.

When everything crashes down around and on top of you—loss of a job, car, house, a friend or relationship, your glasses, keys or an ebay bidding war—you are experiencing, a “phoenix moment.” The moments in life where you are left feeling abandoned and naked in the “street,” with nothing to protect or save you from what could happen next. There is absolutely nothing left for anyone to take from you. The world you created is burnt to the ground and when your last justified tear falls, you will about-face and start walking in a new direction. This is an opportunity to single handedly rebuild your entire life brick by brick, moment by moment. It’s all yours and you can create whatever you want. Sometimes, it’s necessary to make the decision to light the match that will burn down everything as you knew it to start again. This is survival.

Photo by: tina natalini from the Montreal Botanical Garden 2010

The Lotus Flower emerges from mud and is a perfect representation for the human experience. Enjoy this Lotus Flower (I give permission to download, save and share this photo) to remind you of what’s to come as you navigate through many tough times in life. Feel free to share this with someone who could use some visual inspiration.

Q & A with Allison

February 11, 2021 by natalini in wellness, self-care, healthy hair

Hair TaDos & TaDon’ts

Hair Q & A with Stylist, Allison from Talking Headz Salon in Philadelphia

Here are answers to some hair curiosities that most people may have. Meet Allison, a stylist in the Philadelphia area with 17 years of experience making Pennsylvanians beautiful with her custom cutting, coloring and styling. Allison also teaches specialty cutting and coloring classes to newer stylists. Since childhood, Allison was a gifted artist with a photographic memory and natural instincts for color, balance and scale. This talent has allowed Allison to achieve complicated hair coloring techniques and create new visions for clients seeking complete makeovers. Allison has always had her own personal style and strives to bring out her clients’ individuality. From classic and professional to half shaved, full-on rainbow fun, Allison puts all she has into each client so they leave her chair happy and full of confidence.

O & A

COLOR:

Q: What would you recommend for having roots touched up between full color treatments for balayage and highlights?

A: Balayage allows you to go longer between color appointments because of the softer grow out. But, I suggest getting a toner refresh to keep your blonde looking bright and shiny. If you’re covering grey, I would suggest getting a root touch up every 4-6 weeks since grey can be very resistant.

TRENDS:

Q: What do you see for summer and fall trends?

A: We’re seeing a lot of color blocking reminiscent of the 90’s usually with vivid colors. We are still loving the “lived in” color that we get with balayage and highlights. Also shags, mullets and shaggy bobs are all back in style.

EXTREME COLOR CHANGE:

Q: How many steps and about how long would it take to go from a medium brown to Gwen Stefani blonde?

A: Going platinum from medium brown can be a process. Prepare to be at the salon anywhere from 3-6 hours and sometimes longer. We need to lighten every strand, then tone the hair sometimes twice. There will be more upkeep at home since you will need to baby your hair a little more and use purple shampoo to keep your blonde cool toned.

SKIN TONE AND HAIR COLOR:

Q: Does skin tone effect what colors you use for highlighting someone’s hair?

A: Yes, warmer skin tones look better with a warmer toned blonde, cooler and neutral toned skin looks great in the silvery ice blondes that everyone loves lately.

SUMMER HAIR:

Q: Any advice for summer hair care?

A: Yes! The sun, pool water and ocean water can be rough on your hair. I suggest using a leave in conditioner or UV spray before heading to the pool or beach.

Thank you, Allison. Talk to you again soon for skin care and make-up tips in March!

To book an appointment with Allison at Talking Headz Salon 4422 Baltimore Ave. Philadelphia, PA call 215-729-2028 and follow Allison on Instagram @allisonheadz to see her before and after shots.

Enjoy Allison’s hair art below…