Here’s a small peak at a chapter (in progress) from my soon to be self-published book, “How to Make the Best F’ing Lemonade,” for a bonus perspective on moving through tough times.
PHOENIX MOMENT
Identify the alignment of events when everything seems to be happening all at once.
This is your chance to re-build and reinvent your life. Everyone has many Phoenix moments at varying and often unexpected times. We need to see these moments as opportunities to review, regroup, refresh and rebuild in a way that far exceeds our original vision. At this point, there is absolutely nothing more to lose.
It is valuable to have a few “down-on-the-ground,” full depletion of every emotion, reason, answer and excuse moments. This is where the good stuff we create is built upon. It is also like a game of “trust me” for yourself. The question is, can you catch yourself before you fall or do you need to break down completely to test your resilience? You are definitely much stronger than you think.
When everything crashes down around and on top of you—loss of a job, car, house, a friend or relationship, your glasses, keys or an ebay bidding war—you are experiencing, a “phoenix moment.” The moments in life where you are left feeling abandoned and naked in the “street,” with nothing to protect or save you from what could happen next. There is absolutely nothing left for anyone to take from you. The world you created is burnt to the ground and when your last justified tear falls, you will about-face and start walking in a new direction. This is an opportunity to single handedly rebuild your entire life brick by brick, moment by moment. It’s all yours and you can create whatever you want. Sometimes, it’s necessary to make the decision to light the match that will burn down everything as you knew it to start again. This is survival.
